The core focus on an Enneagram 9 is harmony, which sounds like a really good thing. And it is.
But the problem arises when an Adaptive Peacemaker chooses harmony in the moment to the detriment of their Future Self.
Before attending my in-person Enneagram retreat, Alexandria Keahi experienced this exact challenge, staying quiet to avoid conflict and ignoring her own dreams to accommodate others.
So, what does it look like when a self-preservation 9 chooses herself?
On this episode of Lead with the Enneagram, Alexandria explains how the focus on harmony associated with being a 9 was playing out in her life and why she swept things under the rug to keep the peace.
Alexandria shares the response she’s getting from friends and family now that she’s doing things for herself and describes how stepping into her own internal harmony is bringing her more peace and less anxiety.
Listen in for insight on how integrating the Enneagram is inspiring Alexandria to pursue a longstanding dream and learn how those of us who love and lead 9s can support them in stepping into the light! What You Will Learn
Why Alexandria thought she was a social 4 but turned out to be a self-preservation 9
How Alexandria identifies with the focus on harmony associated with being an Enneagram 9
How Alexandria’s self-preservation instinctual type plays out in her life
Alexandria’s struggle around creating temporary harmony to the detriment of her Future Self
How Alexandria leans into her 1 and 8 wings to avoid sweeping things under the rug in her professional life (and why it’s more difficult for her to do that in her personal life)
The response Alexandria is getting from friends and family now that she’s doing things for herself
Why it’s crucial for a 9-4-5 tritype like Alexandria to be aware of their tendency to withdraw
How stepping into her own internal harmony is bringing Alexandria more peace and joy
Alexandria’s advice to fellow Enneagram 9s who are afraid to step into the light
How people who love and lead Enneagram 9s can encourage them to use their voice
Connect with Alexandria
Alexandria on Instagram
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Resources
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