“You can have great sex until the day you die.” Yep, we are going there this week, and I am so thankful to Susan Bratton for guiding us. Intimacy expert to millions, best-selling author, and content creator, Susan shows you how to transform having sex into making love. Having great sex is so much more than just physical skill, and Susan and I really dive into how you can communicate with your spouse about intimacy and desire so you both enjoy your sexual experiences even more.

It’s important for men and women to understand how their own body and sexuality works and how their partner’s body and sexuality works. Men are run by testosterone and are on a 24-hour cycle. Women are run by estrogen and are on a 28-day cycle. Men were designed to be ready at the moment women are ready. Our anatomy works differently, but the key is blood-flow. Susan shares such great advice for men to better understand women’s sexual experience, and the key is - slow down, turn around and come back to us and bring us with you.

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Here are more take-aways:
-Having an orgasm during intercourse is a learnable skill
-Your sexual development can always be improving (just like your personal development)
-Intimacy is a heart connection at the body, mind, and spirit level
-Sexual education includes three components: 1) love-making techniques, 2) communication techniques, and 3) sexual health
-Sexuality is ageless. You can have great sex until the day you die.
-Sex is not just for procreation. It is also for connection, co-regulation, joy, and fun
-It’s important for men and women to understand how their own body and sexuality works and how their partner’s body and sexuality works. Women need foreplay. We need men to come back to us and take time to bring us to their level.
-Libido has to do with hormone regulation. Desire is related to your body image and emotions. Arousal describes the physical anatomy and physiology. Take a look at Susan’s colored images of the vulva and clitoral anatomy to better understand your female body (see link below)
-You need to believe you WILL get better and better as a couple
-Desire is made of two parts: it is safety and security AND it is novelty and variety. You can learn together and play together. Couples that play together, stay together.
-Susan recommends thinking about the time of conception as all the joyful opportunities to improve together over time. Focus on desire - safety and variety - as part of conception.
-We need to have compassion for ourselves and our partners.
-Express your needs to your spouse in real time. Feedback is NOT failure. Feedback is what you both need to WIN. You are on the same team!

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Related episode:
Wholly a Woman episode 46: Know your female body - using anatomically correct terms: https://www.spreaker.com/user/nfppharmacist/episode-46-know-your-female-body-using-a

Vulva anatomy image: https://nfppharmacist.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/Vulva-Colored-susan-bratton-scaled.jpg
Clitoral anatomy image: https://nfppharmacist.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/Clitoral-Anatomy-Colored-susan-bratton.jpg

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