How To forgive

Forgiveness is not as farfetched as we make it out to be. Forgiveness is within reach for a willing heart and for anyone who truly understands why forgiveness is urgent.
Sometimes we hold back the need to forgive because we are scared of being hurt by that person or group again.
But forgiveness doesn't mean to lay down your guard around them; it just means you are no longer resentful and bitter towards them.
To lay down that hurt and pain in your heart, you can do the following;
1.Arrange a meeting with the person who hurt you and talk about it.
Meeting up with someone who hurt you in the past can be very daunting. Naturally, we would feel anxious meeting this individual face to face.
If chose this method of forgiveness, make sure to meet in a public area where you may feel safe.
It is equally okay if you went with a friend, in case you needed any type of support.
Facing your fears and taking them by the horn could reward you with A Currency Called Confidence

2.Call them up on the phone and speak your mind to them.

If you feel too nervous to face the individual who has caused you pain in the past, it is perfectly normal.
Sometimes the people who previously hurt us could have changed for the best or perhaps could have become even more sinister.
A safe way to forgive and to let out what was in your heart, is to pickup your phone, call them, talk to them about the pain they caused you, how it impacted your life and the reason why you decided to phone them and forgive them.

3.Write them a letter and express yourself to them.
According to psychologist, writing is a form of expressive therapy that utilises the act of writing and processing the written word as therapy.
Writing therapy suggests when you pen down your feelings, it gradually improves feelings of emotional trauma.
Tell this person in your own words, what they did to you, how you perceived it, and what you have decided to do going forward.
4.Send them a message via text.
Just like writing a note or a letter, you can also text the person who offended you.
If you chose not to revisit the hurt, it is very okay to write the simple word "I forgive you for all the pain you caused me".
This will give you a sense of satisfaction and new beginnings.


5.Reach out on social media.
In the past, when someone in my close circle would hurt me, I would delete their telephone number from my phone, and block them from reaching me via text or any of my social media accounts. I was that vindictive and ignorant!. But not any more..
If you are guilty of this, perhaps the option of text message or a telephone call is now unavailable to you
To resolve this issue, you could simply go on social media and search for them, send them a private message and tell them your piece.

6.Pray and pen down all your pain.
You may or may not be surprised about this, but sometimes hurt people hurt would hurt you unbeknownst to them.
They genuinely have no clue about the pain that is eating us up and tearing us apart. Such people are legitimately surprised when we behave in a resentful manner towards them.
If you never want to open up to this individual, you can simply go down on your knees, pray and ask God to help you heal.
Another thing you could do is to pen down the hurt you're feeling on a piece of paper. You should forgive them on the piece of paper too and release them from your heart.
The next thing to do is either to let this piece of paper sail in a river or you can burn it to ashes.
It is my wish that you found this helpful. May this article be a catalyst for your decision to forgive that friend, neighbour, in-law, parent, sister, brother, aunty, uncle, lawmaker, classmate, colleague, ex husband or wife, ex boyfriend/girlfriend, and anyone you may have been carrying in your heart and overburdening yourself
God bless you, and I look forward to seeing you on the other side, totally transformed and making great strides in your life.

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