It’s alarming but important to know that the part of your brain that is in charge of your stress outs and anxiety doesn’t understand English, so it really doesn’t matter what you say to yourself. It won’t work. Instead, we’ll learn the language that your brain speaks so you can directly convey the peace and calm that you want it and you to know so you can get a handle on stress-outs and other negative emotions. What works is so simple…you just need to become brain-lingual!

In this episode we will learn:
~Why talking to yourself is a lot like talking to a baby
~The difference between the downstairs brain and the upstairs brain and why this matters
~How to become BRAINlingual, that is, learn the language of the brain so you tell your brain directly in it’s own tongue to relax and peace out
~How Guided Meditation can help

Quotes:
“The part of your brain that needs to hear that there is nothing to stress out about doesn’t even understand English! You need to learn the language of your brain so you can speak directly to it and your body when you are stressed out.” -Cheri Augustine Flake, LCSW

“Saying to yourself or someone else, “Relax! Calm Down!” Never works…in fact, it makes things worse…instead, what if I told you to think of the last time you were in awe of nature…bring yourself there…what message have you sent to your brain now?” -Cheri Augustine Flake, LCSW

Books, ideas, people, websites mentioned in this episode:
Resources for Resilience https://resourcesforresilience.com
Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation by Dan Siegel https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/6315775-mindsight?ref=nav_sb_ss_1_8
The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel Van der Kolk, MD: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/18693771-the-body-keeps-the-score?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=4bRPAPvdmj&rank=1


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Cheri Augustine Flake, LCSW
The Stress Therapist and Author

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Time Stamps/Chapters:
00:00 Introduction to Becoming BRAIN-lingual
01:40 What babies and brains have in common
03:45 DOS (downstairs) part of your brain vs. Macbook 2022 (upstairs) part of your brain
06:20 Where do our thoughts come from?
09:15 Why telling someone to calm down doesn’t work
10:40 How to relax by speaking sensations: the language of your brain
13:05 Present moment thinking and how it helps you become Brainlingual
15:58 Guided meditation with Cheri Flake
30:30 Closing remarks
32:16 Outro