Who are NDCCs? NeuroDiverse Christian Couples
Couples: We will talk through a list of questions to help you determine if a counselor or coach is a good fit for you as an NDCC.

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Counselors, Coaches, Ministers: If you want to learn more about being more autism spectrum area and understand NeuroDiversity we talk through a course we are offering.
Through the end of the year only as our Christmas gift to you- $500 off the course with this code
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What are some of the things the course includes? Educate Module 1
I. Autism
What it is and Isn't
What you may have learned
History of
Changes of Diagnostic Criteria and Terms
Importance of Language/ What it means to the Autistic Community

II. Specifics of Diagnostic Criteria from HFA to Asperger's to Autism Spectrum introduction to Social Pragmatic Language Disorder in DMS 5
DSM vs ICD
Changes in the terms
Levels
Specifiers
Differential Diagnosis (Anti Social PD, Narcisstic PD, Schizotypal PD, Schizophrenia, OCPD, Bipolar)
Comorbity (Depression, ADHD, Anxiety, PTSD, Learning issues and differences and processing)

III. Autism and Intimate Relationships
At the heart of the diagnostics- Social-Relational- Emotional Reciprocity
Theory of Mind
Perspective Taking
Executive Function Issues
Black and White/Literal thinking
Analytical
Detached
Perseveration
Sensory Issues
AS Sexuality
Developmental Delay- what does that mean? How emotional and relational have not developed at the same level as reasoning/cognitive

IV. Neurodiversity
Disability Models/History
Religious: Disability or diagnosis is a curse or judgment from God- should be a shame factor
Medical- Diagnosis- it is a condition to be fixed, cured, treated or eradicated
Social- Societal barriers create the disability no the issue itself
Professionals- Professionals know what is best for the person, follow our model
Empowerment: Working with the individual to meet their goals and potential and helping with supports and accommodations vs minimizing the person's strengths due to a diagnosis or difference
Acceptance of different brain types and person types and how to build on strengths and strategize on weaknesses

V. Poly Vagal Theory- Basic
This important in understanding fight/flight/freeze
This sets the tone on why therapy is done differently in light of amygdala activation in therapy which causes defensiveness and no new learning can occur

Barriers to learning

Assets to learning

V. Why typical marriage therapy techniques do not work
AS-Nt or Neurodivergent relationships have a 70-80% divorce rate for first marriages and higher with each marriage
Based on the NT-NT model
Assumes both persons have the same neuro wiring
Assumes both people communicate the same way and use language the same way
Assumes both people are skilled in conflict resolution
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