Do you need to find the strength to be able to manage and possibly move on from an unhealthy relationship? Many folks have tried to leave relationships multiple times. They tend to go back out of fear, and quickly realize that things in the relationship haven't changed. We go back into relationships for many reasons. Often, we reminisce on the past, romanticize the relationship, and fear a failed relationship. We also may feel guilt, shame, and the fear being alone. I understand fearing a failed marriage, but is it more important to find and cultivate one’s identity? The concept of purpose is a very deep challenge, it's finding your truth, your true identity, and being able to be that truth no matter what. Usually when we are in toxic relationships, whether they are family, romantic, or work-related, we are not able to be ourselves. Instead, these relationships have us walking on egg shells and feeling fearful. During this time, we appear to be in the process of losing ourself and losing the precious time we could be using to cultivate our true life. Often, when we are in these unhealthy relationships, we do not realize the impact it has on family and friends. We need to reach out to our friends and family and explain what has been going on. If there are children involved, we need to take them into consideration, understand how to open the lines of communication, and how to create a situation for everyone's growth and peace. Being true to your values will allow you to find your purpose of identity. However, you do not necessarily have to leave the relationship to learn about your values, to grow, and to begin to find your truth. You can do the work while you are in the relationship. The results of your hard work may make differences that can better the relationship, or it may make it easier for you to make healthier choices. You need to take a deep look into the relationship to see the situation clearly in order to decide what will be best for you.