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Resurface Podcast is hosted by husband and wife Stephen and Rachel Scroggins. It is where comedy, crisis, and caregiving collide, told by two people who still have to make dinner.
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1 OCT 2026 · How does a real mom measure up against the internet’s parenting standards?
Rachel is finding out the hard way. In Episode 42 of Resurface, Rachel turns online parenting advice into an Internet Mom Report Card and grades herself on everything the internet says a good mom is apparently supposed to do: perfect morning routines, creative lunches, developmental activities, enrichment, screen-time limits, gentle parenting, an organized home, quality family time, Pinterest-worthy memories, and more. Somehow this involves Fortnite raising a child, questionable lunch expectations, toy rotation, bribery, yelling, screen-time loopholes, secretly burying children's artwork in the trash, and the increasingly important question: where exactly are parents supposed to find the time to do all of this?
This isn't a parenting-advice episode. It's a parenting comedy about what happens when you stack every supposedly reasonable parenting standard on top of every other supposedly reasonable parenting standard and expect one actual human mother to meet all of them.
Rachel does surprisingly well in a few categories. She fails spectacularly in others.
Then everything gets added up for the final Internet Mom Report Card. Will the children be allowed to keep their current mother?
Probably best to let the internet decide.
Related Episodes: Would You Save Your Spouse or the Dog | Episode 39 https://youtu.be/g0rhV7tCvL0
If Rachel Came With a Warning Label & Zombie Apocalypse: Who Survives? | Episode 38 https://youtu.be/65aLAozLp8M
#resurfacepodcast #survivingthewave #marriagehumor #couplecomedy #wivesvshusbands #sarcasm #family #momguilt #parenting #parentinghumor #momhumor
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23 SEP 2026 · Rachel lived with severe OCD during pregnancy, after childbirth, after pregnancy loss, and for years without knowing what it was.
In Episode 41, Rachel shares her experience with postpartum and perinatal OCD, intrusive thoughts, contamination OCD, and the fear of telling anyone what was happening inside her head. Stephen knew about these thoughts at the time, but after having a stroke at 37, he no longer remembers parts of that period — so some of what Rachel tells him now feels almost new.
Rachel traces her OCD from childhood intrusive thoughts to contamination fears during pregnancy with Ariana, then to darker intrusive thoughts after becoming a mother. She explains why she once believed the devil was attacking her, what happened when she finally told Stephen, and how the OCD returned severely after miscarriage and pregnancy loss.
The conversation also addresses why people with perinatal OCD may be afraid to tell a doctor or psychiatrist, including fears about being judged or having a child taken away.
Later, Rachel and Stephen discuss harm OCD, unwanted sexual intrusive thoughts, and pedophilia-themed OCD. Some of the themes discussed were part of Rachel's experience and some were not.
Stephen uses a hit-and-run OCD example to explain the cycle of checking, Googling, replaying events, monitoring reactions, and seeking reassurance — and why OCD's demand for certainty is never fully satisfied.
They also discuss postpartum OCD versus postpartum psychosis, why a podcast cannot diagnose what someone's thoughts mean, and OCD recovery. Rachel says her OCD today is in 99.9% remission.
This episode grew out of the larger maternal and postpartum mental health conversation surrounding the Lindsay Clancy case, but it is not an analysis of her case. We do not diagnose Lindsay Clancy or discuss her criminal responsibility.
This episode contains discussion of harm and sexual intrusive-thought themes and is intended for adults.
This episode contains discussion of harm and sexual intrusive-thought themes and is intended for adults.
⏱ CHAPTERS
0:00 Preview
0:22 Episode 41 Begins: Why Postpartum OCD
3:16 Childhood Intrusive Thoughts
6:57 Pregnancy and Contamination OCD
11:42 After Birth: The OCD Gets Darker
13:25 Telling Stephen and What He Remembers Now
18:19 Pregnancy Loss, Recurrence, and Finding OCD
20:27 Fear of Telling a Doctor or Psychiatrist
23:49 How OCD "Changed Lanes"
25:02 Content Warning: Harder OCD Themes
26:29 Harm OCD, Sexual Intrusive Thoughts, and Pedophilia-Themed OCD
29:00 Hit-and-Run OCD and the Checking Cycle
30:11 The "What If?" Spiral and Identity Doubt
32:06 Postpartum OCD vs. Postpartum Psychosis
32:34 Recovery, Remission, and Hope
33:47 Crisis Resources and Where to Find Help
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Resurface is a marriage and family podcast hosted by Rachel and Stephen Scroggins about surviving medical trauma, mental health challenges, special needs parenting, raising a medically complex child with intractable epilepsy, partial deafness, and special needs, navigating life after stroke at 37, and finding humor in the middle of it all.
New episodes weekly.
If you're a parent of a medically complex child, a family member or friend of a child with special needs, a stroke family, an epilepsy family, or anyone trying to keep your relationships and your sense of humor intact while life keeps throwing emergencies at you, you're in the right place.
🔗 RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
International OCD Foundation — Perinatal OCD Resource Center
https://iocdf.org/perinatal-ocd/
International OCD Foundation — Find an OCD Therapist / Provider Directory
https://iocdf.org/find-help/
International OCD Foundation — About OCD
https://iocdf.org/about-ocd/
Postpartum Support International — Help & Resources
https://postpartum.net/get-help/
Intrusive Thoughts — OCD Symptoms & Subtypes
https://www.intrusivethoughts.org/ocd-symptoms/
National Maternal Mental Health Hotline
Call or text: 1-833-TLC-MAMA
1-833-852-6262
If you're in a suicidal or emotional crisis in the United States:
Call or text 988
SAMHSA National Helpline
Call: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)
Text your ZIP code to 435748 (HELP4U)
Related Episodes:
My Husband Had a Stroke at 37 | Episode 3
YouTube Video ID: 08-L7glW56Q
The Hospital Broke Something in Us | Episode 19
YouTube Video ID: 7GwS3apT9K8
#postpartumOCD #perinatalOCD #intrusivethoughts #OCDawareness #OCDrecovery #maternalmentalhealth #harmOCD #postpartummmentalhealth #resurfacepodcast #survivingthewave
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Disclaimer:
We are not medical professionals. The experiences, observations, and information shared reflect our personal journey and understanding at the time. This content is not medical advice and is not a substitute for guidance from qualified healthcare professionals.
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17 SEP 2026 · Episode 40: Medicaid Waiver Fight, Invisible Disability, and a Labor Day Break at Carowinds
Rachel and Stephen return for episode 40 after a Labor Day weekend break, clarifying they are not homeless but still facing mortgage and housing instability tied to their ongoing fight for Medicaid services for their daughter Mila, who was born pulseless for 25 minutes and has an invisible disability. They describe support from a senator’s office, updates on the CAP/C Medicaid waiver legal battle (including losing Disability Rights NC counsel, proceeding pro se against the AG’s office, a Chapter 41B dismissal, and a stalled Superior Court appeal due to a sealed thumb-drive record), and a civil rights complaint alleging discrimination by North Carolina Medicaid that has recently gone quiet. They share personal updates: friends visiting, a trip to Carowinds with rollercoasters, a payment mishap, kids returning to school, the family dog’s decline, and Mila’s cochlear implant being turned down at UNC to improve tolerance after years of misdiagnosis.
00:00 Not Homeless Update
00:46 Episode 40 Intro
01:19 Mortgage Fight Help
02:20 Mila Medical Background
03:44 Invisible Disability Talk
04:51 Labor Day Plans
05:02 Friends Visit Setup
06:35 Carowinds Day Out
08:45 Water Ride Shenanigans
09:52 Debit Card Dippin Dots
11:47 Night Fury Marathon
14:17 Best Coaster Debate
15:37 Goodbyes Baby Fever
15:58 Pet Topic Tease
16:22 CAP C Waiver Fight
17:32 Civil Rights Complaint Update
20:42 Superior Court Stuck
22:11 Lawyer Life Jokes
23:15 HOA Email Wars
26:10 Dog Update And School Quiet
27:32 Bedroom Cleaning Debate
29:16 Mila Cochlear Implant Progress
31:21 Wrap Up And Next Episode
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2 SEP 2026 · Would you save your spouse or the dog if your house were on fire?
In Episode 39, Rachel and Stephen play “Wives or Husbands,” a game built around marriage hypothetical questions and which spouse is more likely to do what.
It begins with familiar arguments about driving, directions, man flu, mental load, selective hearing, and passive-aggressive sighing. Then the questions become considerably less reasonable. The dog, hamster, baby books, and children all make Rachel’s fire-rescue list. When she asks whether Stephen would save her, a normal relationship question becomes a serious discussion about a charred wife, skin grafts, and whether Rachel was already beyond saving.
They also uncover a five-year family secret. Rachel ran out of gas after insisting that zero miles did not mean empty, called AAA instead of Stephen, and recruited the children to make sure he never discovered she had been wrong.
This is married couple comedy about wives vs. husbands, relationship questions, mental load, driving arguments, marital logic, and what happens when two people who know each other far too well are given hypothetical situations.
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Resurface is a marriage and family podcast hosted by Rachel and Stephen Scroggins about surviving medical trauma, mental health challenges, special needs parenting, raising a medically complex child with intractable epilepsy, partial deafness, and special needs, navigating life after stroke at 37, and finding humor in the middle of it all.
New episodes weekly.
If you're a parent of a medically complex child, a family member or friend of a child with special needs, a stroke family, an epilepsy family, or anyone trying to keep your relationships and your sense of humor intact while life keeps throwing emergencies at you, you're in the right place.
Mentioned in this episode: https://www.youtube.com/@DoctorMike
Related Episodes: Husband Roasts With My Sister | Episode 27 https://youtu.be/--EuvzagjZ
We Might Lose Our House - We Will Still Choose to Laugh | Episode 35 https://youtu.be/rrAZXWMHwbY
These Pet Peeves Make Us Irrationally Angry | Episode 11https://youtu.be/u3fS-4oZbOo
#resurfacepodcast #survivingthewave #marriagehumor #couplecomedy #wivesvshusbands #darkhumor #sarcasm #gallowshumor #traumainformed
🆘 If you're in survival mode, this will help: https://www.resurfacepodcast.com/downloads
❌ If you are facing Medicaid service denials in the State of North Carolina, join the fight for systemic change by visiting this website and filling out the intake form: https://tinyurl.com/ncmedicaidfamilies
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26 AUG 2026 · The whiteboard challenge. Who would survive a Zombie apocalypse? Who would hoard snacks? And pranking Alexa.Then we move into a few serious questions. What do well-meaning people say that actually makes things worse? What do we wish people knew about special needs parenting?
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20 AUG 2026 · What happens when a married couple compares their favorite foods, desserts, TV shows and restaurants, then realizes how much of life they have been putting off while waiting for the “right” time?In Episode 37 of the Resurface Podcast, Rachel and Stephen start with the important questions: Is crinkle-cut fry slander justified? Could Rachel actually win a food-eating contest? How many completely wrong TV shows can she guess before landing on *Saved by the Bell*? And which restaurants and desserts actually make the favorites list? We roast each other with sarcasm and deadpan humor, and guess completely wrong 95% of the time.Then the conversation gets more serious. WE talk about the things we keep postponing, from taking a real family vacation to simply having more time with our kids. Rachel opens up about the invisible workload behind special needs parenting, caregiving, Medicaid, legal battles, and CAP/C advocacy, plus the reality of raising a child who cannot reliably self-report if something happens. She also talks candidly about screen-time guilt, Fortnite, and realizing that the demands on her time have changed the kind of hands-on parenting she wants to be doing with our special needs daughter.This episode is equal parts sarcastic married-couple humor and an honest look at parenting, caregiving, family priorities and what gets pushed aside when there is always something more urgent to handle.
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13 AUG 2026 · A stranger claiming to be a 17-year-old messaged our child on Fortnite, then asked where they lived, their school, and their phone number.This week we're breaking format: a lighter Amazon reviews cold open, then a hard conversation about online predators on gaming platforms. We walk through exactly what happened when our child was contacted by an adult posing as a teenager, the red flags we missed, and the three reports we filed: local law enforcement, NCMEC's CyberTipline, and Epic Games. We also cover the parental control gap in tools like Bark Home, how to set up Epic Games parental controls step by step, and why this can happen on any device with in-game chat, not just Fortnite. If you have kids gaming online, this one matters.1. Bark Phone:Link: https://www.bark.us/bark-phone/2. Grooming red flags resourceLink: https://www.missingkids.org/theissues/onlineenticement3. Why Epic Games can't just let explicit content through: in 2022 the FTC fined Epic Games $520M, including a record $275M COPPA penalty, and required them to turn voice/text chat off by default for anyone under 18 unless a parent or teen opts in. Source: https://www.ftc.gov/news-events/news/press-releases/2022/12/fortnite-video-game-maker-epic-games-pay-more-half-billion-dollars-over-ftc-allegations4. CyberTiplineLink: https://report.cybertip.org/5. Epic Games parental controls instructionsLink: https://safety.epicgames.com/en-US/parental-controls
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If you listen on Apple Podcasts, leaving a review helps more families navigating trauma, special needs parenting, or hard seasons find this podcast, and the community around it.
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Resurface is a marriage and family podcast hosted by Rachel and Stephen Scroggins about surviving medical trauma, mental health challenges, special needs parenting, raising a medically complex child with intractable epilepsy, partial deafness, and special needs, navigating life after stroke at 37, and finding humor in the middle of it all.
New episodes weekly.
If you're a parent of a medically complex child, a family member or friend of a child with special needs, a stroke family, an epilepsy family, or anyone trying to keep your relationships and your sense of humor intact while life keeps throwing emergencies at you, you're in the right place.
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- Some supplemental music licensed through Envato Elements
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5 AUG 2026 · Episode 35 starts with Reddit reactions, stories, questionable snacks, cuteness aggression, Elmo, and a much-needed family day at Carowinds.Then the conversation shifts. Rachel shares what happened after the kids left for the day, the financial pressure the family is facing, and the fear that they may not be able to keep their home.This episode is funny, honest, and uncomfortable in the way real life sometimes is. Thank you for watching, listening, and continuing to support Resurface.
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22 JUL 2026 · We started with a trivia game about each other. It ended with Stephen saying something he had never told me.After 16 years of marriage, we played relationship trivia to see how well we still know each other, and the answer was uncomfortable. What began as a comedy game about shoe sizes and Starbucks orders turned into the most honest conversation we have had in a long time. Stephen admitting he has been quietly struggling with depression since his stroke. Both of us grieving the people we used to be. And a real disagreement, on mic, about whether I am actually happy. This is glass half empty versus glass half full in real time. Marriage under pressure, mental health after stroke, and finding the humor anyway.This episode includes an honest conversation about depression and mental health. If you or someone you love is struggling, you can call or text 988 in the US to reach the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.-(0:00) Intro(1:51) Relationship Trivia(3:55) The Starbucks Order Disaster(7:47) Our Favorite Foods(11:48) A Completely Free Saturday(18:57) What Song Will You Turn Up?(21:47) Comfort Shows(33:33) Ring Size And Height Fails(36:03) Order Of Operations In The Shower(40:33) Naming Everyone's Birthdays(48:09) "You Don't Know Me"(49:25) Do We Still Know Each Other?(51:24) Stephen Opens Up About Struggling(61:45) Grieving Who You Used To Be(65:18) What We're Really Afraid Of(69:33) What We've Stopped Saying(70:48) What We've Given Up(74:27) A Random Tuesday(76:22) "Do You Think I'm Happy?"(79:38) Glass Half Empty, Glass Half Full(85:33) Would You Change Me?
New episodes weekly on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.
If you listen on Apple Podcasts, leaving a review helps more families navigating trauma, special needs parenting, or hard seasons find this podcast, and the community around it.
Download your free Get Helped and Be Helped Checklist here: https://www.resurfacepodcast.com/downloads
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Resurface is a marriage and family podcast hosted by Rachel and Stephen Scroggins about surviving medical trauma, mental health challenges, special needs parenting, raising a medically complex child with intractable epilepsy, partial deafness, and special needs, navigating life after stroke at 37, and finding humor in the middle of it all.
New episodes weekly.
If you're a parent of a medically complex child, a family member or friend of a child with special needs, a stroke family, an epilepsy family, or anyone trying to keep your relationships and your sense of humor intact while life keeps throwing emergencies at you, you're in the right place.
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14 JUL 2026 · Nala is on hospice, she still plays, and she has growled at our special needs daughter twice. In 2019 a dog we used to own attacked, with no warning at all.Nala is our Great Dane. She is almost 11, she is on comfort care for liver damage and arthritis, and she is still happy. She still plays with Luke, our Golden Retriever. She still gets excited to see us. And we may still have to make a decision about her, not because she is suffering, but because we have a child with special needs who cannot read a warning and cannot get herself away from a dog that size. In 2019 we had another dog. He was 150 lbs, he was on a leash, he was sitting, and he attacked someone with no warning at all. We have never told that story publicly until now. This episode is that story, and the argument Stephen and I are having about what it means for Nala.
(00:00) Preview
(00:34) Welcome Back
(01:11) Medical Acronyms: Stephen Guesses
(16:32) The Story We’ve Never Told
(17:03) He Had CPR at Birth
(18:22) 2019: One Hundred Fifty Pounds
(20:20) I Made Him Sit
(23:12) She Needed Stitches
(25:09) The Health Department Gave Us Three Options
(29:21) Rehomed to a Family With Kids
(37:51) Luke and Nala Are Not Steel
(38:30) This Brings Us to Nala
(39:35) Why Her Bed Is in the Closet
(47:21) Two Growls and Escalating Confusion
(51:34) She’s Already on Hospice
(55:25) Are We Playing the Odds?
(57:11) I Asked the Vet If Families Have to Choose
(58:35) We Don’t Agree on the Timeline
(01:00:35) The Trigger We Agreed On
(01:08:02) The Food Aggression Toward Luke
(01:11:38) Why I See What He Doesn’t
(01:20:08) I’ve Been Grieving Her for Six Months
(01:21:33) Can We Get a Hamster?-New episodes weekly on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.
If you listen on Apple Podcasts, leaving a review helps more families navigating trauma, special needs parenting, or hard seasons find this podcast, and the community around it.
Download your free Get Helped and Be Helped Checklist here: https://www.resurfacepodcast.com/downloads
Find us on TikTok: @https://www.tiktok.com/@resurfacepodFind us on Instagram: @https://www.instagram.com/theresurfacepodcast/Find us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61584198124279Email us: contact@resurfacepodcast.comVisit our website: https://www.resurfacepodcast.comFind us on Threads: https://www.threads.com/@theresurfacepodcast
Resurface is a marriage and family podcast hosted by Rachel and Stephen Scroggins about surviving medical trauma, mental health challenges, special needs parenting, raising a medically complex child with intractable epilepsy, partial deafness, and special needs, navigating life after stroke at 37, and finding humor in the middle of it all.
New episodes weekly.
If you're a parent of a medically complex child, a family member or friend of a child with special needs, a stroke family, an epilepsy family, or anyone trying to keep your relationships and your sense of humor intact while life keeps throwing emergencies at you, you're in the right place.
Edited with Movavi Video Editor: https://www.movavi.com/Some supplemental music licensed through Envato Elements
- Edited with Movavi Video Editor: https://www.movavi.com/
- Some supplemental music licensed through Envato Elements
Resurface Podcast is hosted by husband and wife Stephen and Rachel Scroggins. It is where comedy, crisis, and caregiving collide, told by two people who still have to make dinner.
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